When women become mothers. their life priorities change.
I was watching this TV show on celebrities mothers. Yeah I watched all kind of trashy shows. I taped such shows and practically fast forward them. So out of 30 mins, I would watch about 10 mins real time.
Well, the celebrity mum being interviewed was DS. She was a former neighbour of mine when I was living in Newton. She and her boyfriend (now husband) JL were living a few floors up. We had seen them around but we never spoke.
JL her boyfriend was a rather famous and hunky actor turned banker when he was at the prime of his career. We met JL on our very first day of moving in. We were driving in with our truckful of stuff, in our dirty clothes, sweating and smelling like pigs and who came to "greet" us at the carpark but JL. We were speechless but if the area was good enough for celebrities, it should be good enough for us.
As for DS, she was a actress turned TV host(ess)/journalist. We met her a few times at the lift lobby, and even shared the lift, sometimes alone, sometimes with her dog, "Pepper". We never spoke to one another, cos both SO and I were rather shy. Personally I dun feel we should fawn over celebrities. They are also humans after all. As for SO, it's a different case. Every time, he see a celebrity, he would whisper their name, rather loudly. Yeah...it's pretty embarrassing, though I am indifferent to them.
Anyway, on the show, DS, who was no longer in show business after the birth of her son, but now running her own PR company, said that she used to be very ambitious. She wanted to be at the top of her field (which she did) and even wanted to travel to Hong Kong or China to become a top journalist there. But after the birth of her son, everything changed. Her son is now her top priority. As for her ambitions and dreams, her children can do that for her. She is passing the dream.
When women give birth, their life change. Everything is now about their children. They, the women, dun exist any more. Self does not exist. Only their next generation. Their maternal instincts took over.
I told SO before, the female species can be so "pitiful" and sacrificial at times. For the first 15 years of their lives, they live for their parents. The next 10 to 15 years, some would live for themselves. But then if they got married and have children, the next decades till they die belong to their children. Whatever dreams, ambitions, aspirations they have now are now passed on to their children, their next generations, their clones.
Unless of course, you dun get married or dun have children, only then would you have to live out your own dreams, cos there are no one to pass them to.
Passing the dream is thus something only mothers would understand. And one would never know or understand unless one become a mother. And yet, mothers find all these sacrifices so worthwhile.
I was watching this TV show on celebrities mothers. Yeah I watched all kind of trashy shows. I taped such shows and practically fast forward them. So out of 30 mins, I would watch about 10 mins real time.
Well, the celebrity mum being interviewed was DS. She was a former neighbour of mine when I was living in Newton. She and her boyfriend (now husband) JL were living a few floors up. We had seen them around but we never spoke.
JL her boyfriend was a rather famous and hunky actor turned banker when he was at the prime of his career. We met JL on our very first day of moving in. We were driving in with our truckful of stuff, in our dirty clothes, sweating and smelling like pigs and who came to "greet" us at the carpark but JL. We were speechless but if the area was good enough for celebrities, it should be good enough for us.
As for DS, she was a actress turned TV host(ess)/journalist. We met her a few times at the lift lobby, and even shared the lift, sometimes alone, sometimes with her dog, "Pepper". We never spoke to one another, cos both SO and I were rather shy. Personally I dun feel we should fawn over celebrities. They are also humans after all. As for SO, it's a different case. Every time, he see a celebrity, he would whisper their name, rather loudly. Yeah...it's pretty embarrassing, though I am indifferent to them.
Anyway, on the show, DS, who was no longer in show business after the birth of her son, but now running her own PR company, said that she used to be very ambitious. She wanted to be at the top of her field (which she did) and even wanted to travel to Hong Kong or China to become a top journalist there. But after the birth of her son, everything changed. Her son is now her top priority. As for her ambitions and dreams, her children can do that for her. She is passing the dream.
When women give birth, their life change. Everything is now about their children. They, the women, dun exist any more. Self does not exist. Only their next generation. Their maternal instincts took over.
I told SO before, the female species can be so "pitiful" and sacrificial at times. For the first 15 years of their lives, they live for their parents. The next 10 to 15 years, some would live for themselves. But then if they got married and have children, the next decades till they die belong to their children. Whatever dreams, ambitions, aspirations they have now are now passed on to their children, their next generations, their clones.
Unless of course, you dun get married or dun have children, only then would you have to live out your own dreams, cos there are no one to pass them to.
Passing the dream is thus something only mothers would understand. And one would never know or understand unless one become a mother. And yet, mothers find all these sacrifices so worthwhile.
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