It is most painful when parents lose their young child.
The blog written by the parents is full of anguish and pain. It is going to take a lot of time before they can get over the death of their child. Well, they may not. But they would never forget their child.
Read the blog at your own risk. I can feel their pain.My heart went out all the way to them.
Rest in peace, Sunshine boy!
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New Paper
27 Aug 2008
Jail? Guilty plea? I can't forgive him
Driver jailed for running over boy at Simei
By Chong Shin Yen
HE was their Sunshine Boy, who died after he was run over twice by a reversing lorry. And though the driver has been jailed, the parents of Jadon Sim, 8, still cannot find closure.
His father, Mr Sim Chin Soon, wrote in a blog dedicated to him: 'This is cold comfort to all of us here who are still grieving over you.
'To some, this is probably a 'closure'. But to mummy and papa, there'll never be a full closure. There can never be a closure for the void in our hearts that is left by your departure.'
The entry was dated last Friday, the day former delivery driver Lim Poh Eng, 50, was sentenced to a year's jail for causing the accident and another eight months for taking drugs.
Lim was also disqualified from driving for 10 years.
Mr Sim, 43, a civil servant, declined to be interviewed. But the blog, which he started about two months after Jadon's death, showed that till today, the family are still grappling with the loss of their 'baby'.
Pain always there
The Primary Three pupil was hit along the pedestrian walkway between Simei MRT station and East Point Shopping Mall at 3.20pm on 22 May last year. He died about an hour later at Changi General Hospital.
Lim was reversing his lorry to deliver goods to a shop next to the walkway when the accident happened.
Last month, when Mr Sim found out that Lim was going to plead guilty, he wrote in his blog: 'Frankly, Papa don't give two hoots about him. 'Nothing is going to bring you back to us, baby. Nothing matters now.'
Mr Sim and his wife were not in court when Lim was sentenced.
But Jadon's uncle, Mr Nicholas Sim, told The New Paper: 'My brother told me that he doesn't want to know the outcome. He said that it doesn't matter any more. His boy is already gone.' Mr Nicholas Sim added that Jadon's parents and older brother, 16, have rarely talked about the accident over the past year.
'My brother and sister-in-law are holding up well but the pain is always there,' he said. 'My mother, who took care of Jadon while his parents were at work, is still sad.'
The elderly woman, who was at home when The New Paper visited, walked away quietly when she heard her grandson's name.
Jadon's family lives not far from the accident scene, while Mr Nicholas Sim lives at a nearby block. He said: 'It's hard to forget as we walk and drive past the accident site every day. As to whether we forgive (Lim), a life was lost. Forgiveness can't bring Jadon back.'
Jadon's father also addressed the issue of forgiveness in his blog. In an entry last month, he wrote: 'Baby, you'd always been a forgiving child, and I just know in my heart that you've long forgiven the man.
'But I'm afraid it's going to take Papa and Mummy a long long time before we can say we have truly forgiven that man.'
But forgiveness is just what Lim was looking for. The court heard that he has been haunted by memories of Jadon and can't bring himself to drive again.
Lim, a bachelor, resigned from his job. Racked with guilt, he has apparently been praying for Jadon's soul and spirit and for his family to find peace and comfort.
His lawyer, Mr Laurence Goh, told the court that Lim became a mental wreck after Jadon's death.
Said Mr Goh: 'He is now jobless and unable to concentrate on anything as he is constantly thinking about the boy and his family, and how traumatised they must be from his death.'
He added that if Jadon's parents permit, Lim would like to visit his niche to 'atone for his sin'. Mr Goh also said that Lim was so distressed that on many occasions, he had felt like ending his life 'to pay for the loss of Jadon's life'.
Hard to sleep
He said Lim became withdrawn after the accident and had difficulty sleeping. So when a friend who owed him money gave him a packet of Subutex as part payment, Lim took the drug hoping to find some relief.
Mr Goh later told the media that if given a chance, Lim would like to apologise in person to Jadon's parents and seek their forgiveness.
Said Mr Goh: 'He (Lim) said that nothing he says or does can bring the boy back to his parents. 'He is accepting the sentence and hopes this would bring some consolation to Jadon's parents.'
However, District Judge Hamidah Ibrahim criticised Lim for earlier blaming the accident partially on Jadon. The judge called his comments insensitive before jailing him for not keeping a proper lookout.
For the Sim family, the hope is that Jadon's death has served as a wake-up call. Said Mr Nicholas Sim: 'My brother told me that he hoped Jadon had sacrificed his life so that precautions would be taken to prevent similar accidents from happening there.'
For causing death by a rash act, Lim could have been jailed two years and fined. For consuming Subutex, he could have been jailed 10 years and fined $20,000.
The blog written by the parents is full of anguish and pain. It is going to take a lot of time before they can get over the death of their child. Well, they may not. But they would never forget their child.
Read the blog at your own risk. I can feel their pain.My heart went out all the way to them.
Rest in peace, Sunshine boy!
--------------------------
New Paper
27 Aug 2008
Jail? Guilty plea? I can't forgive him
Driver jailed for running over boy at Simei
By Chong Shin Yen
HE was their Sunshine Boy, who died after he was run over twice by a reversing lorry. And though the driver has been jailed, the parents of Jadon Sim, 8, still cannot find closure.
His father, Mr Sim Chin Soon, wrote in a blog dedicated to him: 'This is cold comfort to all of us here who are still grieving over you.
'To some, this is probably a 'closure'. But to mummy and papa, there'll never be a full closure. There can never be a closure for the void in our hearts that is left by your departure.'
The entry was dated last Friday, the day former delivery driver Lim Poh Eng, 50, was sentenced to a year's jail for causing the accident and another eight months for taking drugs.
Lim was also disqualified from driving for 10 years.
Mr Sim, 43, a civil servant, declined to be interviewed. But the blog, which he started about two months after Jadon's death, showed that till today, the family are still grappling with the loss of their 'baby'.
Pain always there
The Primary Three pupil was hit along the pedestrian walkway between Simei MRT station and East Point Shopping Mall at 3.20pm on 22 May last year. He died about an hour later at Changi General Hospital.
Lim was reversing his lorry to deliver goods to a shop next to the walkway when the accident happened.
Last month, when Mr Sim found out that Lim was going to plead guilty, he wrote in his blog: 'Frankly, Papa don't give two hoots about him. 'Nothing is going to bring you back to us, baby. Nothing matters now.'
Mr Sim and his wife were not in court when Lim was sentenced.
But Jadon's uncle, Mr Nicholas Sim, told The New Paper: 'My brother told me that he doesn't want to know the outcome. He said that it doesn't matter any more. His boy is already gone.' Mr Nicholas Sim added that Jadon's parents and older brother, 16, have rarely talked about the accident over the past year.
'My brother and sister-in-law are holding up well but the pain is always there,' he said. 'My mother, who took care of Jadon while his parents were at work, is still sad.'
The elderly woman, who was at home when The New Paper visited, walked away quietly when she heard her grandson's name.
Jadon's family lives not far from the accident scene, while Mr Nicholas Sim lives at a nearby block. He said: 'It's hard to forget as we walk and drive past the accident site every day. As to whether we forgive (Lim), a life was lost. Forgiveness can't bring Jadon back.'
Jadon's father also addressed the issue of forgiveness in his blog. In an entry last month, he wrote: 'Baby, you'd always been a forgiving child, and I just know in my heart that you've long forgiven the man.
'But I'm afraid it's going to take Papa and Mummy a long long time before we can say we have truly forgiven that man.'
But forgiveness is just what Lim was looking for. The court heard that he has been haunted by memories of Jadon and can't bring himself to drive again.
Lim, a bachelor, resigned from his job. Racked with guilt, he has apparently been praying for Jadon's soul and spirit and for his family to find peace and comfort.
His lawyer, Mr Laurence Goh, told the court that Lim became a mental wreck after Jadon's death.
Said Mr Goh: 'He is now jobless and unable to concentrate on anything as he is constantly thinking about the boy and his family, and how traumatised they must be from his death.'
He added that if Jadon's parents permit, Lim would like to visit his niche to 'atone for his sin'. Mr Goh also said that Lim was so distressed that on many occasions, he had felt like ending his life 'to pay for the loss of Jadon's life'.
Hard to sleep
He said Lim became withdrawn after the accident and had difficulty sleeping. So when a friend who owed him money gave him a packet of Subutex as part payment, Lim took the drug hoping to find some relief.
Mr Goh later told the media that if given a chance, Lim would like to apologise in person to Jadon's parents and seek their forgiveness.
Said Mr Goh: 'He (Lim) said that nothing he says or does can bring the boy back to his parents. 'He is accepting the sentence and hopes this would bring some consolation to Jadon's parents.'
However, District Judge Hamidah Ibrahim criticised Lim for earlier blaming the accident partially on Jadon. The judge called his comments insensitive before jailing him for not keeping a proper lookout.
For the Sim family, the hope is that Jadon's death has served as a wake-up call. Said Mr Nicholas Sim: 'My brother told me that he hoped Jadon had sacrificed his life so that precautions would be taken to prevent similar accidents from happening there.'
For causing death by a rash act, Lim could have been jailed two years and fined. For consuming Subutex, he could have been jailed 10 years and fined $20,000.
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